Todays' news: Rape & teen shares the video on social media. Parents, use this as a teachable moment.
How to teach sexual consent, responsibility and pleasure.
Show this fantastic consent/tea video to your teens. Talk about Respectful Relationships and it has never been more important to talk about pleasure in sexual relationships.
Porn has replaced pleasure and intimacy with penetration and performance. Teens learn about sex from porn. However abhorrent, parents need to think about the link of raping an unconscious person and videoing it, with porn telling kids that is what sex is - eroticised violence on camera.
Teach teens the difference between media sex and real sex.
Why talk about pleasure? We need to eroticise consent; explain that pressuring someone into something they are not into, is not ‘sexy’. Intimate encounters should always involve shared enthusiasm & motivation.
Be brave enough to talk about pleasure and that every sexual or intimate encounter should be an awesome or at least positive experience for both. Currently young people's main sex educator is porn.
Explain this benchmark: "You should NEVER have to coerce or talk some one 'into' doing something, this is not cool or pleasurable, sexy or sexually fulfilling."
Free Resources for talking to teenagers about sexuality
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With 23 years experience as a Sexual Health Nurse & 15 years as an Educator, I'm delivering information & support to Parents, Teachers, Health Professionals and Young People with the aim of encouraging essential conversations about all aspects of Human Sexuality. Hope you find it useful to your situation. Good luck with your conversations, Vanessa x